This is primarily note to self, using a post to archive some of my comments, which I may add to. Still good reading for anyone who comes across this…
Men of mysogyny are selfish, self-consumed people, and they feed off their position of power with women, if the woman gives it to them. They’ll take it and run with it as far as their selfish selves can. Just like an adult child. They don’t want things to change, they’re definitely benefiting from the woman working two full time jobs (work and caring for the kids) while they only have the one, if even that. Men benefit from the assumed roles. I remember as a child feeling this way in my upbringing, although I had my chores. It created a culture and attitude of laziness in me that I knew was wrong and unfair, and that one day I was going to have to address…which I did.
And this projects into every area, including sex and sexual behaviors. Why do you think men leave their significants and spouses? They are self-centered, self-absorbed, therefore don’t understand or care about the requirement of selfless servitude in a true commitment. So when the woman becomes boring to them, as does anything with a self-absorbed person eventually, they start looking elsewhere. Some obviously with less moral, convicting restraint than others. That’s one reason why God is so strong about sex within marriage. He’s trying to protect the woman, the man, and marriage itself…among other reasons. And that’s why it’s so important for women to be patient in relationships, searching out the true character of a man before she gets too emotionally bonded where she almost can’t get out.
And for some men, it’s even more of a conscious power trip, especially some of them I know and have known. It truly is something that feeds their ego. By nature, we as men were supposed to be empowered and strengthened by the loyalty and encouragement of a woman. But when perverted, it becomes and ego-power thing, and at the expense of the woman, instead of earning this from the woman with humble servitude and dignity.
And while men can easily get addicted to the sexual/physical side of relationships (sex, porn, etc), women can easily get addicted to the emotional side of relationships (staying in bad ones, or accepting new bad ones because they are so lonely and feel that need to have anyone there to fill the void). So it becomes a bit of a vicious cycle that one of the two have to take a bold step of courage to break.