I want a paraphrase of a recent comment I made archived on this blog, so you can skip reading this, because that’s all this is. [Incidentally, for those who may come across this that aren’t well versed in this, it primarily addresses Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID).]
I understand the multiple facets (I hesitantly aka them as identities, as this treads against the theme of this thought) of the system. But it is in fact still one system. There is a collective whole. We are in fact still one person, one being, despite the experience of switches. And each aspect of the system is a very important, vital part, all of which makes up some component of who we really are, despite their potential runoff in extremes.
So my question is, what if we were now at the point [in therapy, recovery, or healing process] where someone was looking at us more wholistically? More cohesively? Could that be part of the therapy, to treat us more as one being, one person, with cohesion, to see and react to the collective whole and not just each distinction? Is that not in fact our own goal one day? Might that help us to begin to redirect some of our attention to the cohesion of wholeness and not persistently isolating each component, which only helps perpetuate fragmentation?
We lose identity when we give each component [facet] the same measure or level of prominence in their identity as an independent primary who is non-DID. We can learn not to overly empower each facet of our being in order to ensure a state of anarchy will not reside within, but rather a cohesive oneness restored. We can teach our facets [identities] to celebrate the whole as well as their submitted part, their intended role, in the whole one identity. Then, we can secondarily, healthily stand back and celebrate the different aspects of each identity as they had their special points and functionality.
So each identity will begin to exist and operate for the sake of the whole, without selfish domination, but rather becoming a part of the whole one identity, and not an independent identity of its own anymore.